Conflict hurts children no matter what the disagreement is about. Therefore finding solutions is the prime objective for our work. We expect you, as co-parents, to sit down in a controlled office setting to negotiate your disagreements and make agreements. The heart and soul of our work is mediating your conflicts to find solutions that relieve stress on your children.
Parent Facilitation (Non-confidential):
Parent facilitation starts with an individual intake meeting with each of you, as co-parents, in order to hear each of your perspectives on your shared history, and to make goals for the facilitation process. Next, we visit with your children in order to explain in neutral terms the process that you will be undertaking for their benefit, as well as hear their perspective about your disagreements.
The main phase of facilitation begins next with joint meetings with both of you, as co-parents. You each bring to the table disagreements that have plagued you and we all work together to find common ground and make agreements to resolve them. You will have the security of both of us, as mental health specialists, in every joint meeting, in order to insure appropriate behavior.
Agreements are finalized in a Parenting Plan, and your family moves to an "as needed" basis to allow for any new disagreements that might arise. Throughout the facilitation, we give updates to your lawyers and, if appropriate, the court. We also write a Transition Report at the time your family moves to an "as needed" basis. When all parties are satisfied that problems have been addressed fully, facilitation ends.
Parent Coordination (Confidential):
The Parent Coordination process parallels Parent Facilitation with individual intake meetings, a meeting with children, and joint problem solving meetings. However, coordination is a confidential process so no communication with lawyers or the court is made. A Parenting Plan and a Transition Report are written for your use.
Collaborative Divorce :
In Collaborative Divorce, multiple professionals, including the lawyers for both parties, financial experts (Certified Financial Planners - CFPs), parenting experts ( Mental Health Professionals - MHPs) come together with you, as a team to create a divorce agreement that is then finalized by the court. In this process, our role is to defuse hostility and create with you a Parenting Plan that is an integral part of your divorce agreement from the beginning . We will meet with you separately from the team to negotiate your disagreements about parenting, as well as with the team to make your Parenting Plan part of your final divorce decree.